The routine is the enemy of time

Do you have a daily routine?

Do you get up at the same time every day? Do you eat the same breakfast and maybe walk to work in the same direction, taking the same streets and stopping off to get the same coffee order from the same coffee shop on the way? Likewise, when is the last time you broke that routine? If you stepped out of it, how did it feel? Scary? A bit exciting, or maybe just a bit fresher than the norm?

Remember when we were kids. We were curious about everything around us. I have a 2 years old nephew he keeps on running around, bite things, pulling things, breaking them. He repeats everything he listens. This world is completely new for him to explore. When we don't know things we carefully examine all tiny details. Our brain start making new connections. When we find something new we start learning everything about it. But once we learn, our brain stops thinking, things start happening automatically.  

“Once your brain establishes a routine it stops, the alertness goes away the fascination with how the world works..”  ― Jedidiah Jenkins

The routine becomes the monster in your life. The monster is what fears you from stepping out of your routine to try something different, to see a new place, to learn and be happy to learn about something new. The routine makes the days go by faster. One day it is a Monday, you wake up, get ready, do your everyday activities, only to go back to sleep at night. Then another day when you wake up it is already Friday and you think to yourself that the week has gone by so fast, feeling so short. You feel as if you have not tried anything new, because the routine has not let you. It keeps you in the bubble of being satisfied with what you already know and not wanting to learn new ideas and go on new adventures. Create a routine of new and different adventures.

Step out of the bubble. Run away from the monster. Break the routine. Allow yourself to be free and explore the world. If that means escaping your job or your family/friends for a while, do it. There are so many opportunities out there in the world that involve you getting a future to sustain yourself but you are limited to the time you have. Every day passes by in an instant and you can not get back that day.

“Be spontaneous! Never be afraid to try new things or find new ways!

Don't let routine ruin your life!” ― Mouloud Benzadi

Also read: Improve your life with these healthy habits

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How boredom can unlock your creativity

I read it a while ago "it's a week mind that gets bored." But when you look closely, boredom has nothing to do with strength or weakness of mind. Rather we are so busy nowadays that there is no enough time to get bored. We have so much to accomplish that we think sleep is also our enemy. We stuck in this vicious cycle of filling in time with stuff. We don't even recognise that, we are always busy doing something and that something is not even important. Try this experiment stop doing whatever you are doing right now. Just do nothing for next 5 minutes. You might think what a waste of time. Most us will fail sitting idle just for 5 minutes including me. It's easy to do something than nothing, even though that something can be fishing out your phone from pocket and looking for new notifications.

Now you know it's easy to fill up your whole day with stuff. But when we sit idle our mind starts wandering. We start thinking about various topics. Our mind start using this time for generating ideas. Think about this, when is the last time you had a really deep discussion with someone. Just for once try having dinner without watching television or breakfast without news. Sometimes we are extremely busy with multitasking that we don't even remember what we had in breakfast. Studies shows that the average person spends over four hours a day on their device. That's right: most modern people spend a full quarter of their waking hours on their mobile device. According to one of the studies, about half the time (approx 2 Hours) is spent on the top five social media platforms: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, and YouTube.And we call ourself busy. We can use this time talking to our loved ones. Or spend this time more productive or creative way.

“HUMAN BEINGS MAKE LIFE SO INTERESTING. DO YOU KNOW, THAT IN A UNIVERSE SO FULL OF WONDERS, THEY HAVE MANAGED TO INVENT BOREDOM.” 
― Terry Pratchett

Let me tell you about one of my experience, I have a big list of tasks and habits that I want in my life. Every time I start with so many things at once I gets bored. Human mind have so much inertia that when we try adding any new habit to our life it resists. Rather doing a lot of new things at once try doing one at a time. Few years back I used to buy lot of books, most of them are unfinished reading, Still sitting in my cupboard waiting for reader. If your plate is already filled there is no point in adding more. So don't get bored doing so many things at a time slow down focus one thing at a time you will realise that you are putting your creativity to the task.

We’re trying to swipe and scroll the boredom away, but in doing that, we’re actually making ourselves more prone to boredom, because every time we get our phone out we’re not allowing our mind to wander and to solve our own boredom problems. Adding that people can become addiction to the constant dopamine hit of new and novel content that phones provide. Our tolerance for boredom just changes completely, and we need more and more to stop being bored.

Next time you find yourself in line at the grocery store, in a tedious meeting or killing time in a waiting room, resist the urge to scroll. You’re bound to get bored — and your brain, mood and work performance just might improve.

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Beyond romantic love

"Love. It's an experience. It's an experience that is mental, emotional, physical, sensual, sensory. It's all-encompassing. That's part of why it's so grand, because it doesn't leave any part of us untouched." 

--Esther Perel

Such a beautiful quote by Esther. Last week I was listening to the TED talk The secret to desire in a long-term relationship by Esther Perel and decided to write this post. 

Just think of an experience, a moment in your life where you felt a deep sense of security. A moment when you felt safe, content, satisfied, more than successful. Maybe a moment where you’re crying on someone else’s shoulder, and you know you can really let go because they’re there to sustain you. 

Or a moment when you’re saying goodbye to a dying member of your family, and you know that you’re holding each other all the way to the last breath.
Or moment when you complete your unfinished painting, when you fulfill your passion.

Or a moment when you’re holding a newborn in your arm, a place when you just felt, “I’m enough. There’s nothing more needed in this moment.” It’s safe, it’s trusting, it’s reliable, it’s dependable.

And when you have that moment, what was it like for you? And how did you experience it in your body? 

What does it feel like, physically, when we embody security, trust, safety, familiarity, continuity, belonging? 

It's Love.

Me: Mummy!!! 

Mummy: what happened? 

Me: Nothing 

Mummy: 😒

Sometimes you want to call your mother, just like that no need of any reason. You feels like listening to her voice or just look at her face, you feel better.

A mother’s instinct to protect her offspring begins from the moment she knows she is pregnant. Over the following nine months, although she is yet to see her child, he or she becomes the most precious thing in the world. Babies have a certain survival instinct. They are born with a handful of strategies or “tricks” that encourage the adults around them to protect and care for them. But the relationship between mother and child is different. It goes beyond the baby’s survival instinct.

A healthy relationship, based on unconditional love, affection and respect, makes for happy children.

It is said that best friends are the siblings god forgot to give us. Friendship gives you a soft-corner for your friend. You think of your friend favourably and enjoy being in his/her company. You feel relaxed and not lonely in because of your friends.

“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. 

"Pooh!" he whispered.

"Yes, Piglet?"

"Nothing," said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw. 
"I just wanted to be sure of you.”

“Love” is the essence of sweetness to any kind of relationship, be it a friendship or family or anything else, or just a passion. When you love, you feel responsible and attached to something. You feel a sense of devotion for your loved one.

The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart. Love gives you a reason and a motive of life. It is actually the feeling of love that gives you a satisfaction in your relationship. 
So what do you think love for you? Do let me know in comments below.

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